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scruffziller
09-10-2002, 08:32 AM
From someone who has been there.


RULES AND WAYS OF KEEPING THINGS FROM MOM
AND/OR DAD AND STILL BE HONEST

1. Always associate your secretive situation with some other situation. Such as going
somewhere secretive but they know that you are going somewhere legitimately such as a
friend's house. The legit situation is the cover-up. Never stay too late away from your home
especially if you are doing your secret thing last. If you are too late, they will ask where you
have been. You have a better cover-up if you do your secret thing before. If you must reveal
it, be abstract in description and/or say it casually and/or abruptly. You might be able throw
them off guard in the comprehension.

2. Never leave evidence of your activity. Keep track of the way things were before you
mess it up and put them back to keep your activity from being reflected.

3. Always make sure that if you are watching something on a VCR in your domain
secretively, playing Nintendo etc.. Check and make sure previously that when you are using
your equipment that the transmission does not get picked up on a television that your parents
would be watching(includes snow-static on the picture as well. Prevent any indication of
your activity). If it does, don't do anything while they are watching T.V.(even the radio
perhaps).

4. Never do anything that might lead them to search your domain for something and then
end up finding something else that you really don't want them to find.

5. When you hide something, put it in a spot that you know that they would never have any
reason or business to go there and look for something(this is unpredictable a great deal of the
time).

6. Never tell the parent that doesn't mind your things or the acquaintance that has close ties
with the parent(s) about something that you are hiding. They might spill the beans
accidentally. Or the parent(s) that you worry about could squeeze the information out of
them. They can't tell if they don't know.

7. Never talk about something that is taken from something that you don't want them to
know about. Such as telling them a joke from a comedian from T.V. that you don't think
that they would approve of. You may try to have a laugh but it is not worth the persecution
afterwards. They will ask "where did you hear that!" Then you would have to tell them.
Key Rule: Never make them ask questions. Never get them curious of anything.

8. If you feel the slightest bit threatened that they will search your domain for something
and/or do away with some or all of your precious belongings, hide it and all related to it the
best you can.

9. It always helps to have a parent or parents that are not to bright, but don't trust their lack
of smarts. They can always gain some. Be persistent in finding out their strengths and
weaknesses and accustom to what you can do and not do. What do they notice most about
your activity? Suppress as much information as possible.

10. DO NOT BE CARELESS!!!!!! Do not be careless of doing what you are suppose to be
doing to keep things hidden. Make sure you put back your things right away when they
have been out in the open. A little bit of foolish carelessness will reveal you very quickly.

11. Never bring up something in a conversation that might remind them of something you
don't want them to think about which might lead to more questioning.
Key Rule: Don't talk about anything along the same path that would lead to the
forbidden.

12. If you get caught with something and their reaction is mild and/or indifferent. Get the
item out of their reach and yours and all other possible related items that you do not want
them to see, listened to etc..(take item to a friends house) Don't trust their indifferent
reaction. They could use it against you later. If after several months it seems that things
would be cooled off. You could probably bring it back to your domain.

13. Buy items to store your secretives in that are disguised as normal items. Hide your
secretives amongst normal items and in very unobvious places.

14. The best way to keep things from them is prevention of knowledge. Do not indicate
their ever existence. They can't get mad about something if they don't even know its out
there on the open market.

15. Don't let them see this list!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TylerD
09-10-2002, 08:38 PM
Hey cool thread scruff...but were you one of those kids who always got caught with naughty magazines under your mattress? ;)

Dar' Argol
09-10-2002, 08:50 PM
Hmmmm . . . .wouldn't this fall under "Corruption of Minors"???? This thread seems to be treading a very thin line. I think not mentioning anything would be a good idea;).

scruffziller
09-11-2002, 08:25 AM
Originally posted by TylerD
Hey cool thread scruff...but were you one of those kids who always got caught with naughty magazines under your mattress? ;)

Actually my situation was that my dad would ground me all the time from TV, Nintendo, etc. because I was not talented at doing farm work.

187-Maul
09-11-2002, 11:33 AM
I don't know, but I haven't got any problems at home with lies or what so ever and if I have something to hide I just never mention it in front of my parents

Jedi_Master_Guyute
09-11-2002, 11:54 AM
so, yeah, um, riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight, so, what in the sammest of hizell influenced you to post this? talk about random!! Did you JUST get out of your folks place and in furious rebellion decide to post this????

scruffziller
09-11-2002, 01:04 PM
Originally posted by Jedi_Master_Guyute
so, yeah, um, riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight, so, what in the sammest of hizell influenced you to post this? talk about random!! Did you JUST get out of your folks place and in furious rebellion decide to post this????

Nope I wrote it like 7 years ago and happened to find it on one of my computer disks and then put it on here for the whole world to see. I love............... displaying my art.

Vortex
09-11-2002, 02:36 PM
You can try to hide thing from your parents, but no matter how hard you try, you will slip up at some point, besides that your parents were kids once too and did some of the same things, if not more. They aren't stupid.

Granted some will turn a blind eye, or act dumb, but they know.
You might think you're acting normal, but they can tell when you're up to something.

If you really are trying to hid your nintedo playing or porn viewing, alcohol consumption, dope smoking, the constant lies and made up stories will catch up with you. You will get caught at some point in time. You'll get so involved in watching or playing or doing whatever they will stumble in on you and say something or avoid saying something or your stories won't jive. Its hard to constatly think up excuses as to why you were in the basement for 5 hours doing "nothing" or something without anything to back it up.

I've been busted with drinking in high school by my folks, and they knew a long time prior to my loud, noisy, neak in. They've run across the playboys at the bottom of drawers or in a box burried in a closet corner or above the ceiling. Its still their house and like it or not your mom and dad will clean, snoop, stumble across stuff.

Parents aren't dumb, and is anything really worth all that sneaking around and hiding?

scruffziller
09-11-2002, 02:42 PM
I never did any dope or drink or watch porn at home, so that wasn't a problem. It was just simply being grounded and wanting to continue doing those things. For the most part the above rules helped just as good as any and helped more so than no structure. But I was very diligent about it, it was like a MISSION: IMPOSSIBLE episode everyday for me. I didn't go unscathed but the structure severely reduced it.

Vortex
09-11-2002, 02:44 PM
all that for nintendo.

billfremore
09-11-2002, 02:49 PM
Actually some of these rules can apply to wives as well. :D

mini-rock
09-11-2002, 09:53 PM
I think for that list to work parents (or wives) would have to completely nieve or so wrapped up in their life that nothing else matters.

As a kid I was always 1 step ahead of my parents, and now as a father of 3 girls they know about some of the things I've done, and know they can talk to me about anything. Thats the way it should be. Be honest, everyone was a kid once.

scruffziller
09-12-2002, 10:23 AM
Originally posted by mini-rock
I think for that list to work parents (or wives) would have to completely nieve or so wrapped up in their life that nothing else matters.

As a kid I was always 1 step ahead of my parents, and now as a father of 3 girls they know about some of the things I've done, and know they can talk to me about anything. Thats the way it should be. Be honest, everyone was a kid once.
Very well said.

My dad from time to time would start to zone in what I might have been doing. But most of the time he wasn't paying attention
hence rules 9 and 11.......ewww that is creepy.


Originally posted by tjovonovich
all that for nintendo.

not just for nintendo but for music as well.

Man In The Box
09-14-2002, 10:58 AM
wow that whole list revolves around porn, drugs and alcohol. ROCK AND ROLL!!!!

I never really hid porn in my house I was too paranoid.

mini-rock
09-14-2002, 12:26 PM
Originally posted by Man In The Box
I never really hid porn in my house I was too paranoid.

I had to hide mine. My dad had a habit of not returning the ones he borrowed, and finally I had to tell him to buy his own. :)

QLD
09-14-2002, 12:51 PM
lol.

My mom just threw it away if she found it. But I had to be a little careful, because I had a nice side business of selling it to other kids who were less fortunate. I would buy the originals, and sell copies :eek:

bigbarada
09-14-2002, 01:32 PM
How about just following your parents' rules and saving yourself all the hassle? Life is much easier that way.

mini-rock
09-14-2002, 01:39 PM
Originally posted by bigbarada
How about just following your parents' rules and saving yourself all the hassle? Life is much easier that way.

Where's the fun in that?:)

Pendo
09-14-2002, 02:08 PM
Originally posted by Quite-Long Dong
I had to be a little careful, because I had a nice side business of selling it to other kids who were less fortunate. I would buy the originals, and sell copies :eek:

Hehe that's what I used to do too :D. I got caught selling it in school once by a teacher, and he took the magazines off me...:rolleyes::stupid:. I got in a load of s*** off me parents though :). Those were the years :happy:.

I agree with mini-rock, where's the fun in following your parents rules?

PENDO!

QLD
09-14-2002, 02:12 PM
I sold the videos. ;) Once I got those, magazines never did much for me. Even when I was older, you couldn't buy them anywhere in GA, so I would order them from CA, sell them to customers, or trade them for things like auto work, flowers, jewelry, food.....life was good. :D

derek
09-14-2002, 03:59 PM
QLD, you should change your name to larry flint!!!:crazed:

QLD
09-14-2002, 04:09 PM
Well, if he wasn't a moron, I might! ;)

I just did my best to help others in need. :)

InsaneJediGirl
09-14-2002, 10:15 PM
I have to agree with BigB.I have had few problems with my parents,as long as I have followed the rules.The only rule I keep breaking is Roleplaying during the week.Of course..my friends email me..I hop on AIM,what am I supposed to do?:D:D:D

Just follow the rules,its easier in the longrun.

Lowly Bantha Cleaner
09-14-2002, 10:16 PM
Originally posted by bigbarada
How about just following your parents' rules and saving yourself all the hassle? Life is much easier that way.

Yes, their house, their rules.

If I don't like their rules, I can always go somewhere else. And pay rent, utilities, laundry, money for groceries & personal items, etc.

So I will heed their rules, contribute to the housework, pay my fair share for some of the bills for the time that I am here, because I know that it is just a short trip from the penthouse to the outhouse.:happy:

mini-rock
09-14-2002, 11:08 PM
InsaneJediGirl and Lowly Bantha are doin it right. Follow your parents rules.

However teenagers break rules now & then, some major & some minor, and thats ok as long as your willing to suffer the consequences if you get busted. :)

rynobot
09-15-2002, 01:11 AM
I never got in trouble with my parents because they never found out about what I did.

Lord Malakite
09-15-2002, 01:14 AM
Originally posted by Man In The Box
wow that whole list revolves around porn, drugs and alcohol. ROCK AND ROLL!!!!

I never really hid porn in my house I was too paranoid.

Figures this would be what this thread is about. :rolleyes:

TylerD
09-15-2002, 02:36 AM
I don' get in trouble for anything...mainly because I don't do anything that is bound to get me in trouble......

scruffziller
10-18-2006, 09:14 AM
Just revisiting this thread. Quite amusing, eh. I am taking this list and posting it on my blog for my myspce friends to see too.

2-1B
10-18-2006, 10:46 PM
besides that your parents were kids once too and did some of the same things, if not more. They aren't stupid.

In many cases I have to disagree with you because many times, parents ARE stupid...it's as if they have kids and become stupid, thinking their kids are great and don't do much wrong.

I'm not talking about ALL parents, just some of the ones I know...so don't take offense if you are a parent.

So yeah, sometimes parents are stupid. :thumbsup: And sometimes kids are, too. lol lol lol

bobafrett
10-18-2006, 11:39 PM
I was stupid to the fact that my son was smoking. He's only 15, and started down the wrong path, to the dark lung.

kool-aid killer
10-19-2006, 12:24 AM
So what did you do? KAK hopes you introduced him to the pimp hand, but there are others that would prefer you sit "billy" down for a little heart to heart talk. Bull funky, actions speak louder than words. Replay Revenge of the Sith, your apartment is Mustafar, hes Anakin, and youre Obi. You know the script...

JimJamBonds
10-19-2006, 12:28 AM
16) Make sure the 'rents are out of town when you have Slickers mom come over.

InsaneJediGirl
10-20-2006, 11:37 PM
16) Make sure the 'rents are out of town when you have Slickers mom come over.

I thought people stopped saying the "rents" back in middle school?Where have I been?:whip:

2-1B
10-21-2006, 12:54 AM
Frett, you should make him smoke every last one of those Laramie cigarettes like Homer threatened Bart...lol

JimJamBonds
10-26-2006, 03:41 PM
I thought people stopped saying the "rents" back in middle school?Where have I been?:whip:


"Most sayings are good for only about five years."

- Michael Scott

jjreason
10-29-2006, 12:58 PM
I'm not sure if I'd agree that parents are stupid.... I think many of them live in denial, not digging too hard into their kids' lives because they're afraid of what they might find. I don't know how many times I've had to bring kids home after catching them red-handed at one thing or another, only to have the parents flat out deny that their kid ever could have stolen/fought/smoked dope/got drunk.

Parents want to believe that everything's okay - that's human nature - but I don't think that keeping a million secrets from them is the way to happiness.

I always encourage teens to have as much open dialogue with the folks as possible..... to "build a bridge of trust" by starting small and showing them you'll be honest with them. I'd be a lot more inclined to let my daughter stay out over night if she told me she was going to a party with booze and no parents (because at least then I could impart upon her the million and one things that might go wrong, just so that info will be in the forefront of her mind), than if she said she was just going to sleep over at a friend's place - that I'll be looking into pretty carefully.