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chrisc
02-20-2004, 10:40 AM
I have a problem asking women out without making a rear end of myself. When I do they almost always say no and end up hating me for some reason. Mabey you guys can give me some tips to help me later on.

bobafrett
02-20-2004, 10:47 AM
Well, I'm certainly not one to give advice on how to ask a woman out. I prefer just to stay single, and try to raise my son. Eventually though, I may change my mind, but for now, I've got to much other stuff going on that keeps my life full.

Kidhuman
02-20-2004, 11:13 AM
Well, just be yourself for starters. Dont try and get to overboard. Some decent conversation and all. Start small like the typical cup od coffee or a beer. Dont make it seem like a date, but always leave the door open.

derek
02-20-2004, 12:45 PM
I have a problem asking women out without making a rear end of myself. When I do they almost always say no and end up hating me for some reason

just like tyler durden says, "maybe a woman isn't what you really need." :D

not to say you need a man either, but maybe you should just be happy with yourself, and if the opportunity presents itself, be yourself and try to find someone you have something in common with.

you probably "make a rear end" out of yourself because you are not being true to yourself, grasshopper. ;)

you should check out "hango fett's girl help" thread.......though apparently it didn't help him much...........

http://www.sirstevesguide.com/forums/showthread.php?t=21162&highlight=girl

bobafrett
02-20-2004, 12:58 PM
Yes, Listen to Derek, Help you is can, save you it might, from making an arse out of you.

We spent many a page trying to help the young Hango, but heed our words he did not. That is why he failed!

Ahhh, I remember the times I tried to ask a girl out, let's face it, if you fail with one, it doesn't mean you will with all of them. Be yourself, as the others have said, I find that works better than trying to pretend you are someone you are not.

Banthaholic
02-20-2004, 02:27 PM
Back in my single days, when all else failed, good ole Jim Beam seemed to do the trick. After talking a bit with Mr Beam, I seemed to have 'all' the right things to say. Worked about 50% of the time.

Plus if you do something stupid, you might not remember in the morning. But then again, you mind end up doing something stupid and wake up to it the next morning too. :)

kool-aid killer
02-20-2004, 10:00 PM
I hope you didnt use "Mr Beam" to take advantage of anybody. Derek brought up a thread full of good advice. Fret hit it on the head, Hango Fett was just too scared thats why it didnt work. You on the other hand can actually muster up the courage to speak to one so youre lightyears ahead of him. Good luck.

The 'Xir
02-21-2004, 06:02 PM
I'm hardly anyone to give advise either, although I don't think I'm that bad looking of a guy! ;) However, I've learned a thing or two being in my job believe it or not! I'm in direct sales and they say the hardest door to open is the car door! Meaning you can drive to your customers, but if you don't get out of the car and do your job, your not going to close any deals/make any sales! In other words just do it!

So, K-A K has a point! It all comes down to being confident! But in the same vein you gotta be confident while having a "I don't give a rats arse if you say yes or not" attitude! Confidence and indifference, a perfect combination! Just so you know that's for casual dating and cheap sex kinda stuff!

If there is someone specific that you really like, you'll want to treat her with a little bit more respect! Just start up casual conversation first. General stuff, but during that convo lead the conversation towards relationships! Mention your own that has just ended, even if it's bull-crud! Then she'll open up about hers. If it warrants it ask her quesitons like, so why aren't you seeing anyone now? If she's a confident person she'll tell you straight up what the deal is, but most people become vunerable with a question like this, and give general answers like, "I don't know why". This approach puts someone who you may have thought was out of your league on your same level and gives you that chance you may think you didn't have! All and all Confidence is the key, and use that opportunity to make your move. If you've made a connection but are still unsure where she stands you can always generalize questions, and say things like, "we should get together and hang out sometime" inplace of comming right out and asking her out. Also introduce environments where you both can go but she'll feel comfortable in, so it doesn't seem like a date! The only problem with this is, you may hang out with friends and she may find interest in someone else within the group because she just still sees you as a friend. So being confident is always your best bet, and establish that connection betwen you both!

Another thing I've learned in sales, is that if all else fails, play the numbers game! Ask out as many women as possible, your bound to find somone to say yes! In sales it's referred to as your 'law of averages'! Meaning for every 20 No's you get you'll get a yes! The more confident you are the better your law of averages. the more scared you are your chances are probably more like 1-100!!! ;) :crazed:

I hope this helps! Good luck!

Pendo
02-21-2004, 06:21 PM
Where's DeadEye when you need him :rolleyes:!

PENDO!

Jedi_Master_Guyute
02-21-2004, 06:31 PM
Yeah, you listen to that crazy Kidhuman character. He's the lucky guy on the forums. ;)

I still wonder why Hango's thread got closed down as i'd love to hear any news to that whole debacle. :)

Kidhuman
02-21-2004, 06:54 PM
Yeah, you listen to that crazy Kidhuman character. He's the lucky guy on the forums. ;)



Thank you, I just open the door for hope for all you SW geeks.

Lord Malakite
02-21-2004, 07:03 PM
Didn't we have a thread on this already? :nerv:

Jedi_Master_Guyute
02-21-2004, 07:53 PM
LM- Yeah, but it was for Mr. Hango Fett, and it was closed for what reason i have yet to know. This is simply another lad looking for ways to find love from a bunch of SSG fanatics. :crazed:

Tonysmo
02-22-2004, 01:26 AM
Yeah, your best bet is to read through that link to the other thread.. It may or may not totally apply to your situation, but I think some of the bestest ( yeah, I know thats not a word ) advice was given in that thread.. Im pretty proud of what could/should have been accomplished with that.. but.. it.. got.. CLOSED!!!!! WHY OH WHY!?!?

poor Hango, I hope he has better luck on the next go-round..

**shuffles feet** **moves along **

2-1B
02-22-2004, 02:01 AM
Women are evil.
Avoid their webs.

bobafrett
02-22-2004, 02:14 AM
Women are evil.
Avoid their webs.

After my son's mom and I had our relationship end (long story for another time), it took me almost 4 years before I felt confident enough to ask anyone out. The woman who gave birth to my son brought my self esteem to a low level, and after we broke up, I spent that 4 years rebuilding all the confidence I had earlier in my life. Believe it or not, the first 2 women I asked out when I was ready both said "yes" because I had allowed myself enough time to heal my heart as well as the mental scars that she had left me with. I had a few good dates, a few good relationships, but now I just choose to go it on my own after my last relationship ended. I agree with Caesar though, but not "all" women are evil, just the ones I seem to date!
:D

2-1B
02-22-2004, 03:55 AM
Yeah, you listen to that crazy Kidhuman character. He's the lucky guy on the forums. ;)

Why are you looking at me like that ? :confused:

:D :D :D :D :D


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Frett, sorry to hear of your woes. Yeah, that's exactly what a woman can do -- suck the life right outta ya. :dead:

Yes, yes, don't worry (to any members of NOW who might be reading this :crazed: ), I'm just kidding. Men can do the exact same thing.
I'm not indicting all women, so please don't take me too seriously. :D

mabudonicus
02-22-2004, 11:24 AM
To quote DIO (as I think Caesar already sorta did)
"Ohhh, walk away..... she's looking to love you"
"Don't smell the flowers, they're an evil drug that makes you lose your mind, don't dream of women, 'cos they'll only bring you DOWN!!"

MAN... THAT'S bitterness.... and RJD is only like 5 feet tall, it's a wonder he doesn't explode.... oh, and he's been with the same woman, off and on for more than 20 years, I think he's married to her now, same person who inspired the above quotes...

Love is a funny thing... our culture (such as it is) teaches people to play nasty games, that's where most of the troubles come from....
I like some people, don't like others.... (sorry, just trying to sweeten this thread up a bit)
PS- KH ain't the only lucky Geek here, you know that now Bobafrett ;)

kool-aid killer
02-22-2004, 05:00 PM
I think Hangos was closed up due to Tychos comments but i might be thinking of a different thread. I dont see Hango here at all anymore, wonder what happened to him, maybe he ended up with her and doesnt have time for us anymore.