View Full Version : Another neighbor problem
12-13-2004, 03:05 PM
Man, this hasnt been a good year for my block. A few days ago a man who has lived on my street for a couple of years now followed my sister as she was driving to work. As my sister was walking to her car she noticed he was heading out, but thought nothing of it. As she started to drive away she noticed that he had caught up with her and had started to honk his horn and was signaling for her to turn off so that he could talk with her. My sister managed to lose him in traffic though. This incident has bothered me a lot since i heard of it. I cant think of any good reason why the man had to do that, all her car's lights are functioning properly. The most likely thing that comes to my mind isnt a thought i like. My sister dresses nice because she works at a fashion store and a pharmacy but not in anything flirty. I only recently heard that one time he was watching her while he stood inside his porch, and once noticing that hed been seen he tried to act like he went inside, but continued to watch. Now i wonder how many other times he might have been watching her. I dont know much about him, just that he lives with his wife and two young children. Our only other interaction has been my mother giving him his mail that was delivered to our house on accident. Ever since i heard of what happened ive felt like going to his house and asking him what that was about, but have refrained from doing so because thinking about it doesnt put me in the best of moods. I dont think there is much the police can do about it (they have been at his house a couple of time before though), its only one incident, but maybe if its documented it will help should something occur in the future. Any advice, anybody know somebody or even they themselves been through something like this?
12-13-2004, 04:15 PM
I would at least ask the police to see what advice they have if any.
It goes without saying (and I'm sure you already have), talk to your sister and put her on guard if she isn't already. She shouldn't be walking out to her car alone at night. Have a co-worker escort her to her car and make sure she's on her way before they leave. Perhaps keep a journal of the days that she notices him following her to or from work or any other abnormal situations. God forbid anything happens you would like to have kept track of this guy and establish a previous history of him acting funny.
12-13-2004, 04:15 PM
Hurt him and hurt him badly.
12-14-2004, 09:33 AM
Definitly document the time, date, what occured, and anything else you might find useful. I would also discuss with the police what occured, and if you say that you have seen the cops at his place before, then he most likely isn't up to any good. I had a girlfriend who would fight (physically) with me all the time, thus many visits by the police, now I live by myself, and haven't seen a law officer for many a year. However, the gal I dated still fights with the guy(s) she's with, and thus has more police coming to break up the mess.
12-14-2004, 02:09 PM
Exhaust Port and Bobafrett, im going to speak with a woman that i know who works with the police, she will be able to provide insight into what can be done, since its only been one incident. Im going to have my sister write down the dates, and a rough estimate of the time, just in case.
Kidhuman, you dont know how much i wanted to do just that. The threat of violence fixed my last neighbor problem. But i wonder what his wife would do if she knew what he had done. And considering the possible problems they have had in the past, what would that lead to? There is going to be more than one family affected by this.
12-14-2004, 04:05 PM
Well, I think she would deserve to know what he is doing. Its also not fair to her in that sense.
12-14-2004, 06:49 PM
Some how you need to let this guy know that you know what he did. If he thinks he's getting away with harassing your sister, he will continue.
Next time you see him, wave and say hello. Ask him if he was having car trouble the day of the incident. If he has 1/2 a brain he should get the point.
12-14-2004, 07:48 PM
I'd probably ask the police for some advice,which I see above your going to do.As said by Exhaust Port,I would have a coworker go out with your sister(a male coworker would probably be best) or if you have the time just drop by yourself once and awhile.Kind of make a apperance into a subtle hint that she is being watched by family/friends.
After that,a nice drive and "talk" with the neighbor would be in order :D
12-17-2004, 04:20 PM
I found out that it takes three incidents to happen before the cops can do anything, and even then they must catch him in the act, if not it could just become a case of "he said she said." Im a bit disappointed, but do understand why this policy is in place.
Kidhuman, i agree that it isnt fair for his wife and that she should know, my problem is how do i go about that? I dont know what goes on in their household, whether he hits her or anything, and so i would hate to get her involved in an argument that may pose her harm.
IJD and Turbo, im thinking next time i see him outside, just him and i, im going to straight up ask him why he followed her. Im curious what he would have to say.
12-17-2004, 06:11 PM
So what your saying is that if they get 3 incidents then technically this guy has 2 more "incidents" until you can officially do something about it. That's not right and something definitely has to be done about him. You should call him out and embarass him into not doing it again.
12-17-2004, 07:08 PM
Well if it was my sister I would walk straight up to him the next time I saw him alone outside and ask him what his deal was that day. Put him on the spot and let him know you notice him and found his recent behavior suspect without directly saying it. He may of had a valid reason for flagging her down that day but if he didn't then this should make him realize his actions didn't go unnoticed and came off as being threatening. I wouldn't bring this up to his wife because that could cause him to do something vidictive in retaliation and I would execute the same restraint as far as the police are concerned for the exact same reason. Better to give him the benifit of the doubt first but at the same time establish that you and your sister felt uncomfortable by his actions. He might just be an unhappily married man with a harmless infatuation with your sister and by putting him on the spot you might deter further creepy behavior. Good luck.
I completely agree with Hellboy. Keep the Wife and Police Cards in your back pocket until after you give him the benefit of the doubt while at the same time giving him an unspoken warning.
If any creepy things happen after your little chat, then I would suggest that you cripple him by taking a baseball bat to one of his knees.
12-18-2004, 01:22 PM
I have a dog that would enjoy the taste of man flesh... :evil:
Powered by vBulletin® Version 4.2.2 Copyright © 2014 vBulletin Solutions, Inc. All rights reserved.