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LusiferSam
03-13-2007, 11:59 PM
If you guys were given another chance at a potentially missed opportunity, would you try and take? Or be happy with what you've chosen? I mean pretty much an life opportunity, career moves, romantic, academic, investment, you name it.

I've now found myself in one of these situations, and am really at a loss of what to do. I've deeply regretted not taking this opportunity the first time. But now I am left wondering if this is really a second chance or not. Nor am I sure the outcome will be different. So I defer to you guys.

stillakid
03-14-2007, 12:18 AM
Obviously choices we make along the path of life result in obligations, responsibilities and ramifications that are usually difficult if not impossible to just walk away from. So when a new opportunity or an old one in the form of a second chance arises, taking full advantage of it requires some measured thought as any decision will affect you and possibly others as well.

That said, life is terribly short, a realization that doesn't occur to many people until it is too late. Change is hard, but laying on your deathbed with regrets for what could have been will be harder.

So, if an opportunity arises that is something you truly wish for your life to have, my advice is to definitely go for it with everything you've got. Life is just too too short for anything else.

Tycho
03-14-2007, 01:16 AM
I totally agree with Stillakid's response. I've learned that I'd rather stumble into what could turn out well, than wait until I have everything arranged and planned for just the opportunity I want. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with other people - because their positions are not for you to determine. So take advantage of every opportunity.

figrin bran
03-14-2007, 02:19 AM
even if the outcome is the same, at least you gave it a shot. that would probably be of greater solace to you than passing up this opportunity, whatever it may be, not once but twice and then wondering if you really missed the boat.

JediTricks
03-14-2007, 05:27 AM
I've been trying to live by "regret what you've done, not what you haven't" for the past few years, and for the most part it's worked out pretty well, but there are still MANY opportunities I would go back and take if I could - there is a very powerful line that decides this for me, I'm not sure I could quantify it but it's definitely there, I can see lots of situations I would let stay as they were and I can see some I would almost certainly change.

pegger
03-14-2007, 07:48 AM
I've been trying to live by "regret what you've done, not what you haven't" for the past few years,

I've been doing the same since University.

I honestly believe that regret is a waste of energy. What is done, is done. If you can correct it, do it. If you can't, learn from your mistakes, and try not to repeat them.

Kidhuman
03-14-2007, 08:03 AM
Dont regret anything you did. Never second guess yourself. Go with your gut instinct in life and it will be all good. If I had a chance to do it differently, I wouldnt.

JediTricks
03-14-2007, 10:54 PM
Regret can keep you honest, regret can be a friend on your journey to remind you to make the correct turn next time, and to try to do better by those you've harmed in the past - including yourself. Regret is a natural emotion, but it should be kept in its place.

LusiferSam
03-14-2007, 11:44 PM
Thanks for your input guys. I had more or less decided what to do before starting this thread, but just wanted some reassurance. At this point I can't really do anything, the other party is absent for a month. My situation would requirer a fair amount of explanation, so maybe I go into the details latter. I will say this is one of those cases where I never thought I'd have a second chance.

InsaneJediGirl
03-17-2007, 10:45 PM
I'm pretty much with everyone else, best to go with your "gut" or what feels right. Sure, that can still lead to regret in many situations but at least you've given it your all. I think everyone has regret at some point or about something they've done, but I think its best to try to remember the past but move on(hard to do!).

Good luck in your situation LS :)

jjreason
03-17-2007, 11:16 PM
It's hard to say, based on what we know. There have been a few instances in my life where I haven't done something and I look back on them from time to time - but not with so much regret.

Consider the possible consequences, and the possible benefits - if the greatest benefit outweighs the greatest risk I say go for it. Regardless of what it is.