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stillakid
02-03-2008, 09:57 AM
Collecting anything is a very personal element to a life. Rarely do two people who are together have equal interests particularly when it comes to collecting.

So, if you are just dating, how soon until you reveal your "obsession" with the hottie of the month? Do you let her/him know right away or do you keep it tucked away until you have her/him sufficiently under your spell?

If you're already married or otherwise taken, how does he/she live with your hobby? Is there full on participation? Is is just tolerance? Or maybe she/he really hates what you spend money on and somehow she/he still wants to be with you.

Let's presume that if you were completely alone in this world that you would have your collection out for display every day. But since we all like to be with someone else, sometimes compromises have to be made. How does your significant other take to your Star Wars toys?

Exhaust Port
02-03-2008, 10:22 AM
I think I've always lived in the "tolerance" zone. As long as she didn't feel as if it was taking away from our lifestyle (ie we would have trouble paying bills) and it was truly paid for with extra money there hasn't been any concern. I think both of us in any relationship I've had while collecting have had some sort of vice that we liked to indulge in. The difference has always been that an action figure vice is very tangible so you end up with shelves full of figures.

I remember when I got back into the dating scene I was a bit worried about having my collection on display. Lord knows what kind of comments it would bring. I good female friend convinced me to always leave the collection up as it was a reflection of me and it was interesting. Sure it might be a bid odd but it's a bit easier to accept than someone blowing money on drinking, drugs, etc.

Now my wife hasn't seen my collection in its full displayed glory yet. I've showed it to her in the many, many, many boxes in the basement but after moving into a house I never got around to getting them back on shelves. She's quite OK with me developing a part of the house to include my collection, just not in the living room or something similar. The plan is to put a den/game room in the basement where I think it would fit perfect. Well see I guess.

Jargo
02-03-2008, 10:28 AM
mmm, my partner enjoys the fact that I have an interest. even if he doesn't participate actively. It's non destructive and keeps me broke enough that i don't go wandering off getting drunk and getting into trouble. Since i divested myself of a major portion of my collection he's happier. though there still isn't any more room in the house because of other collections. I think one of the main sticking points over star wars is value for money. because of the scale of the figures he feels you don't get a lot for what you pay. and is happier when i buy larger scale figures because it's more bang for your buck so to speak.
I'm 'allowed' a double shelving unit in the dining room to display stuff on and as long as my collection doesn't start invading the rest of the house I'm good. I still get moans and gripes about how much space in the loft I'm using for non displayed toys. and my monthly toy budget sometimes causes grief. usually on overspends. but for the main part we get along fine over it all and I've noticed a grudging willingnes to look at toy shelves in stores for me when he's out and about and i'm home. He won't actually buy me toys but that's mainly because he doesn't know what i have already and he assumes i might have stuff on order. but if i give him an actual list of things he'll go look and phone me to let me know what's there. And he'll drive me to TRU if i ask.

My boyfriend on the side, (yes it's very continental isn't it. he's french/italian), loves toys though. we buy each other stuff. I bought him a ton of playmates trek figures and he buys me family guy figures. we both went to legoland and spent hundreds of 's on stuff. He also thinks I should keep all my star wars toys and anything i don't want i should give to him in case i want it back at some later stage in life.

I think this all suits me just fine.

Bel-Cam Jos
02-03-2008, 10:44 AM
Hmmm... I liken this topic to Vinyl Caped Jawas or perhaps Missle Firing Fetts. Expensive to get, and in some cases, impossible to find; some even doubt if they really exist and there's a lot of fakes out there. That's been my experience, so I guess I don't need to conti-

Rocketboy
02-03-2008, 10:48 AM
My wife doesn't really care one way or the other, probably since I don't buy much anymore and all the bills get paid on time. Also, I don't have my stuff all over the house (which I wouldn't want anyway).
She doesn't really care for Star Wars but understands I do.
She's indulged me a few times, like when we were dating she bought me The Magic of Myth book out of the blue and also suggested we go see AOTC digitally (which was her second time seeing it - and she fell asleep the first time) only because I had mentioned wanting to see it digitally.

El Chuxter
02-03-2008, 11:22 AM
My wife has opposable thumbs. I think she could defeat any toy.

Blue2th
02-03-2008, 11:46 AM
My X and I were collectors both. She used to collect Barbies and antiques. Not the run-of-the mill dolls, but the expensive ones. I used to collect guitars, amps, various musical instruments and old effects boxes, and Star Wars, Star Trek. Some antique toys like 5O's Tonkas.
We were peas in a pod. Though I had only one room in the house. She had one room in the house for her Barbies, and of course the rest of the house for antiques.
We never made room for kids, as when she wanted them I wanted to wait, and when I wanted them later, she didn't. We had bad timing I guess.
We split up for other reasons than our collecting (we're still friends)
Now that I've met other women, I didn't know that a woman who likes to collect and even encourages collecting within reason, is a rare thing.
What I need to do is go to alot more conventions to meet these kinda women who have a love for the comic book, sci-fi action-figure culture like I do. (good luck huh)
Though I think I would be a catch.
I own my own home, am somewhat financially secure, in pretty good health, well rounded common sense guy, not ugly, thin, professional musician (you'd think I'd meet them in bars, but they're usually not the type I'm looking for) I don't do hard drugs (a little hooch now and then) don't hardly drink, don't watch sports.
C'mon ladies, here I am. Oh I forgot there are no ladies here except Deoxy.
sigh

Jedi_Kal-El
02-03-2008, 12:08 PM
I have my collections: Star Wars, BSG, Transformers, Superman, and my wife has some of her own as she collects Care Bears, Matchbox Cars, and Beatles Memerobilia. She doesn't collect near as much as I do but she's pretty tolerant for the most part. The only time she gets on me about it is when money is tight, but I don't sacrafice bills or food for my collection. We have had a few arguments in the area of "Well how much is that gonna cost us?" but we've never had any big drag out fights over it. For the most part she's pretty good about everything.

CaptainSolo1138
02-03-2008, 12:36 PM
My wife informs me when she bumps my display shelf and dominates an entire shelf.

mabudonicus
02-03-2008, 01:33 PM
Elf thinks it's funny. I don't rreally "collect" but I DO grab the odd figure (deuce mk. II is on my list now) and she will also surprise me with the odd find- she got me the recent re-release of the McQuarrie stormie when she saw it while shopping, f'rinstance.

And she filmed a few clips used in Rockin Deuce, she is TOTALLY on the 2-1B/ Gimme Dengar trip
:beard: Iso & Baws

She rocks in SO many ways tho, it's almost hard to comprehend

jjreason
02-03-2008, 01:44 PM
Tolerance here, but I get a lot of snide remarks and rolled eyes now that it has been going on for so long. My wife cannot comprehend the purchase of duplicates - any Darth Vader, for example, will exasperate her because, well I've got a few of those already.

I go a bit too "paycheque to paycheque", and a lot of that is due to my collection spending. I tell her I'd rather have stuff than money, but I don't think she sees this the same way. lol

TeeEye7
02-03-2008, 01:48 PM
Mrs. TI7 is a professional shopper and a SW fan. This combination, along with the rush of the "thrill of the hunt" makes her an eager participant in the family's collection hobbies.

As our son has gotten older, the passions for collection has cooled considerably (in her heyday, Beanie Babies and Barbies also fought for space with SW in the house) because his interest has waned for SW. (They've been taken over by on-line video games). Only once in a great while do we seek SW goodies. These days, it's mainly for nephews that we pick up the toys.

To answer stillakid's question: she's fine with the SW toys, or just about anything else I'm into. Lately, thanks to mabudonicus and his mentoring, I've delved in the the world of collecting and raising carnivorous plants (I've already got a substantial African violet collection of almost 25 plants, can the CPs be far behind?).

Hold on, dear, here I go again!

bobafrett
02-03-2008, 03:14 PM
My Fiance' moved in, and I packed away some of my collection to make room for her stuff. There are parts of my collection that I will not move, due to the fact that I have to share the basement with my neighbor upstairs. I have to many things that have taken me many years and much money to collect. I don't want them getting damaged sitting in the basement, by flood, or theft.

My Fiance' has suggested that I slow down my collecting, saying "No one can ever get you anything for Christmas or you birthday, because you keep buying everything yourself". I try to explain to her how hard it is to find certain collectibles, and sometimes I see them only once, so I buy them providing I have the money to do so. She hasn't stopped me from buying stuff, but I do feel a little guilty seeing as the house is 90% my stuff, and 10% hers. She also tells me that all her extra money is going toward buying stuff for the wedding. I thought about that while I was purchasing figures from the first wave of the 08 collection.

Jedi_Kal-El
02-03-2008, 03:22 PM
My Fiance' has suggested that I slow down my collecting, saying "No one can ever get you anything for Christmas or you birthday, because you keep buying everything yourself". I try to explain to her how hard it is to find certain collectibles, and sometimes I see them only once, so I buy them providing I have the money to do so.


I can't tell you how many times my wife and I have had that conversation about Birthdays and Christmas. lol

Deoxyribonucleic
02-03-2008, 03:29 PM
What I need to do is go to alot more conventions to meet these kinda women who have a love for the comic book, sci-fi action-figure culture like I do. (good luck huh)
Though I think I would be a catch.
I own my own home, am somewhat financially secure, in pretty good health, well rounded common sense guy, not ugly, thin, professional musician (you'd think I'd meet them in bars, but they're usually not the type I'm looking for) I don't do hard drugs (a little hooch now and then) don't hardly drink, don't watch sports.
C'mon ladies, here I am. Oh I forgot there are no ladies here except Deoxy.
sigh

It's so sad, I'm looking for the same thing you are *I sigh with you :)

My last girlfriend was really, really great about my collection and I didn't even hesitate to show it, in fact, that never enters my mind to hide my love for star wars! I'm sad that for most of you guys, some woman can be so weird about it, makes no sense to me. In fact, when I applied for a research position in my department, one of the questions I had to answer in the app was to explain my organization skills so I used my star wars collection as an example and needless to say, they all know me now around my department as the girl with the star wars collection ;) Anyway back to my X, she was also a collector of Disney stuff so she has the SOC (small object collector) gene as well. She really got into star wars with me too, and me old disney movies with her and we really enjoyed each others hobbies. It's so sad to say, the only person I really ever 'loved' and the jerk cheated on me so I dropped her like a hotcake! My girlfriend before her was a very angry thang and would always question me about my spending money on figures and star wars stuff, mind you I have a nice collection but I also have a house, car, savings, and know what I can and can't afford. She was such a ***** about it and just about everything else, I dropped her like a hotcake too.

The next person I date is going to have hobbies and that's that. I want to be with someone that is fun and enjoys all the little nuances of life. And they have to adore animals!! :thumbsup:

bobafrett
02-03-2008, 03:36 PM
The next person I date is going to have hobbies and that's that. I want to be with someone that is fun and enjoys all the little nuances of life. And they have to adore animals!! :thumbsup:

Oh, Oh, Me, Meeeeee! Over here, I collect, and I'm fun, and I adore animals! :love: I also love collecting Star Wars!

Shoot, I'm taken already. Now I have to explain where I got 5 trays of figures from. Yes, I said trays. Wal-Mart has these PDQ boxes with 12 figures per tray or PDQ box. I picked up 4 empty trays, and a fifth one with 10 figures. I used them to display the figures I bought over the last 1/2 year or so.

2-1B
02-03-2008, 03:40 PM
I sold probably 70% of my collection and another 25% of it is packed up in storage, so thankfully this is not an issue for me...

I think I'm a pretty well rounded person overall, so I don't deny my love for SW but I can't say I don't mind not having a huge collection to explain to a woman. :thumbsup:

bobafrett
02-03-2008, 03:46 PM
With the size of my collection, it's either take it or leave.......period. I was with a woman who had me keep my stuff boxed up. It was all her stupid junk, while everything of mine sat in the corner of storage boxed up. So if I would have brought Robin to my house, and she would have said "pack it up" , well I would still be single then. I have made some sacrifices without her asking as it is.

Exhaust Port
02-03-2008, 04:08 PM
She also tells me that all her extra money is going toward buying stuff for the wedding. I thought about that while I was purchasing figures from the first wave of the 08 collection.

Oh man, that is awesome!!! Hysterical BBF. :D

Weddings kill spending on fun stuff. The girl gets the big wedding day event, pictures, gifts, rings, etc. While the guy gets......um, something that probably doesn't cost crap. Don't get me wrong we had a great time and it was a perfect day but there sure was a lot of stuff that was bride oriented. I have a few items that I mention should be bought someday to equal out that disparity. I think a pinball machine (or two) would fit nicely in the house.


The next person I date is going to have hobbies and that's that. I want to be with someone that is fun and enjoys all the little nuances of life. And they have to adore animals!! :thumbsup:

Oh man (or woman), the search for the perfect mate. :) My wife is just that person but she's taken. :D

Mr. JabbaJohnL
02-03-2008, 11:59 PM
For the (limited) girlfriends I've had, they haven't really seemed to care. I've got no reason to hide my SW stuff; if someone doesn't like it, then tough nuts for them. I watched the films with my current pseudo-girlfriend (not that she's a pseudo girl, just not really sure what the situation is currently) and she liked them (she's apparently into LOTR as far as that sort of thing goes, but otherwise well-rounded as I also like to think I am), and has seen pictures of my collection and what is still on display and doesn't seem to have a strong opinion either way.

I just need some damn money, though. :dead:

jedi master sal
02-04-2008, 11:23 AM
The next person I date is going to have hobbies and that's that. I want to be with someone that is fun and enjoys all the little nuances of life. And they have to adore animals!! :thumbsup:

And the whole "yellow is mellow" thing too...lol

Kidhuman
02-04-2008, 11:42 AM
I watched the films with my current pseudo-girlfriend (not that she's a pseudo girl, just not really sure what the situation is currently)

We here at SSG prefer the term false-girlfriend

My wife is tolerant. As long as bills dont get behind and everyone has what tey need(clothes, etc.) she doesnt mind.

Tycho
02-06-2008, 02:37 PM
Ah! TRUES, FALSES! My kind of thread! :thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

Here are some questions:

1) Why would you live and share an income with someone else who doesn't share your beloved interests with you? (I will assume a lot of you are interested in Star Wars, sports, other action-genres, etc? - and that you can avoid a shotgun wedding with birth control).

2) If it's because she's hot and you want to $#@! her, aren't you PAYING FOR IT when you enslave yourself to her via alimony (if you divorce) or leaving her an inheritence (should you be still paying for it after you die)? In financial terms, isn't it far cheaper to pick out regular escort girls with pictures on the web and then employ them for a few years? You can always have a lady in her 20-somethings then. Both the wife or the escort girl are basically prostitutes. Isn't the wife far more expensive and guaranteed to lose her appeal and make you miserable?

3) If someone you hire is interested in your money, is she really going to say anything negative if you have a life-sized inflatable JarJar Binks hanging from your ceiling above your bed? And if you became rich, isn't it your fantasy to divorce and find more trophy wives like Donald Trump and his ilk always do? But why go so far as to marry?

4) Stillakid's question is irrelevant if you live for yourself and do not create extra complications by having children. Do what makes YOU happy. This is not being selfish actually. You weren't born to be your future (present) wife's slave and she to have you to leach off of. This is an adult individual who can get an education, find work, and take care of herself - or if she's gifted, sell her body for a few years. Unless you really want a baby-making-machine (which I think I am being responsible by never choosing because my children would most likely get kidney disease and wind up being killed or disabled by a brain aneurysm like the one that nearly took me out), you have no reason to marry and form families.

a) obtain money
b) hire a maid
c) hire a nurse
d) hire an escort girl(s)
e) establish your retirement account, health savings account, and long term care financing

If you really want children - you won't need them to support you in old age. Take care of yourself. And hire a surrogate mom and be a single-father if parenting is THAT important to you.

Geeze.

Oh, let me see: why not invite someone into your home who's disinterested in what you're passionate about and then PAY her your entire lifetime? That makes sense.

Let's END MARRIAGE and stop the enslavement of men! If the human race also dies out because we don't reproduce, is that really a loss? There will always be illegal aliens anyway. Their anchor-baby daughters can be awfully hot and work for cheap, too.

Blue2th
02-06-2008, 03:13 PM
Ah! TRUES, FALSES! My kind of thread! :thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

Here are some questions:

1) Why would you live and share an income with someone else who doesn't share your beloved interests with you? (I will assume a lot of you are interested in Star Wars, sports, other action-genres, etc? - and that you can avoid a shotgun wedding with birth control).

2) If it's because she's hot and you want to $#@! her, aren't you PAYING FOR IT when you enslave yourself to her via alimony (if you divorce) or leaving her an inheritence (should you be still paying for it after you die)? In financial terms, isn't it far cheaper to pick out regular escort girls with pictures on the web and then employ them for a few years? You can always have a lady in her 20-somethings then. Both the wife or the escort girl are basically prostitutes. Isn't the wife far more expensive and guaranteed to lose her appeal and make you miserable?

3) If someone you hire is interested in your money, is she really going to say anything negative if you have a life-sized inflatable JarJar Binks hanging from your ceiling above your bed? And if you became rich, isn't it your fantasy to divorce and find more trophy wives like Donald Trump and his ilk always do? But why go so far as to marry?

4) Stillakid's question is irrelevant if you live for yourself and do not create extra complications by having children. Do what makes YOU happy. This is not being selfish actually. You weren't born to be your future (present) wife's slave and she to have you to leach off of. This is an adult individual who can get an education, find work, and take care of herself - or if she's gifted, sell her body for a few years. Unless you really want a baby-making-machine (which I think I am being responsible by never choosing because my children would most likely get kidney disease and wind up being killed or disabled by a brain aneurysm like the one that nearly took me out), you have no reason to marry and form families.

a) obtain money
b) hire a maid
c) hire a nurse
d) hire an escort girl(s)
e) establish your retirement account, health savings account, and long term care financing

If you really want children - you won't need them to support you in old age. Take care of yourself. And hire a surrogate mom and be a single-father if parenting is THAT important to you.

Geeze.

Oh, let me see: why not invite someone into your home who's disinterested in what you're passionate about and then PAY her your entire lifetime? That makes sense.

Let's END MARRIAGE and stop the enslavement of men! If the human race also dies out because we don't reproduce, is that really a loss? There will always be illegal aliens anyway. Their anchor-baby daughters can be awfully hot and work for cheap, too.
Nothin' like the cold hard facts!.....but where's the love? or that thing we call co-dependecy? or is that love? :confused:

Everything you say is true from a certain point of view.
All I know is if you have a break-up it's about one of the worst things to go through, and I sometimes wonder why I put myself through it.
I'll think twice before doing it again.
That's why I think I would like a girl with a life of her own next time.
If she doesn't care to much for my hobby, she can go back to her own house she slaved over (or obtained in a divorce) later we can get together and do things.
She can show me that new dish she's been wanting to cook for me, maybe stay the night.
In a couple of days I can go over to her house and do the same. Yeah guys can cook too.

JON9000
02-06-2008, 04:05 PM
1) Why would you live and share an income with someone else who doesn't share your beloved interests with you? (I will assume a lot of you are interested in Star Wars, sports, other action-genres, etc? - and that you can avoid a shotgun wedding with birth control).

Because 99% of women do not care about all of those things. 90% of women do not care about any of them. Then, according to your logic, we would all be gay. The flipside is, I don't care about shoes, makeup, or celebrity gossip. Relationships do not require complete adherence to each others' passions, my narcissistic friend.


2) If it's because she's hot and you want to $#@! her, aren't you PAYING FOR IT when you enslave yourself to her via alimony (if you divorce) or leaving her an inheritence (should you be still paying for it after you die)? In financial terms, isn't it far cheaper to pick out regular escort girls with pictures on the web and then employ them for a few years? You can always have a lady in her 20-somethings then. Both the wife or the escort girl are basically prostitutes. Isn't the wife far more expensive and guaranteed to lose her appeal and make you miserable?

The "good" life you describe sounds lonely and miserable to me, but keep trying to convince us that the scenario you find yourself in is actually superior to marriage. BTW, paying women to have intercourse with you is the height of lameness. Having intercourse with someone who cannot resist you and vice versa is the height of coolness. As for your fiscal arguments, they assume the man makes considerably more money than the woman, and that the woman will outlive the man. You also ignore the fiscal upside to both parties, such as economies of scale, tax benefits, purchasing and borrowing power, etc.

But we all know this isn't a serious conversation, merely another woe-is-me rant.


3) If someone you hire is interested in your money, is she really going to say anything negative if you have a life-sized inflatable JarJar Binks hanging from your ceiling above your bed? And if you became rich, isn't it your fantasy to divorce and find more trophy wives like Donald Trump and his ilk always do? But why go so far as to marry?

And how many Donald Trumps are present on this board? None? Oh, that's right, he makes million dollar deals while we fantasize about Star Wars and his wives. Donald Trumps of the world don't bother with Star Wars because they think about business while we think about toys. They network at social events while we chat on message boards.

mabudonicus
02-06-2008, 04:32 PM
DAMN thta was a funny one HAL holy CRAP

Yes, having a person in your life who can't help but help themselves to you is really something special (tho it'd be nice if I had more servings LOL)

and truly Elf is into a lot of stuff I'm not and vice-versa... we are BOTH involved in all the "important" stuff but there's no "I don't like what YOU like so STOP it!!" action EVER

:beard: Iso & Baws
Elf RULES 'nuff said

Tycho
02-06-2008, 04:46 PM
Because 99% of women do not care about all of those things. 90% of women do not care about any of them. Then, according to your logic, we would all be gay. The flipside is, I don't care about shoes, makeup, or celebrity gossip. Relationships do not require complete adherence to each others' passions, my narcissistic friend.

True, except for the "we would all be gay" part. Isn't sex an interest? Then it can also be a mutual interest for straight couples, right? But that doesn't shouldn't require you to surrender all your Transformers and shoe shop instead of catch the football game. How whipped do you let yourself become? That is the question. And how impulsive are you when you sign up for the biggest sacrafice? (which is after the one you make for her ring, too?)

By the way, I got slammed by the mods for stereotyping women's interests as shoes, makeup, celebrity gossip etc. I don't mind if you are also a male chauvenist pig. We have a club founded by our Chairs, Archie Bunker and Al Bundy. I never realized it before, but they have the same initials. Cool.


The "good" life you describe sounds lonely and miserable to me, but keep trying to convince us that the scenario you find yourself in is actually superior to marriage.

I have to. It's a much healthier alternative than depression, wouldn't you say?


BTW, paying women to have intercourse with you is the height of lameness. Having intercourse with someone who cannot resist you and vice versa is the height of coolness.

True. And I try. But I am not cool and "resist me?" Heck, women RUN AWAY from me these days!


As for your fiscal arguments, they assume the man makes considerably more money than the woman, and that the woman will outlive the man.

The Kevin Federline Maneuver (KFM) is very rarely achieved, and then only by a Master. But you are sacraficing your own children to achieve those ends.


You also ignore the fiscal upside to both parties, such as economies of scale, tax benefits, purchasing and borrowing power, etc.

Or the downside, such as the girl ruining your credit etc. I'd go further and eliminate the marriage tax credit. It can all be applied to child tax credits, but there's no reason why able-bodied adults need special benefits while they're combining income. This would also close down one argument in the gay marriage debate. NO ONE would or should have these benefits. There could be a maternity benefit for the obvious pre-natal, post-natal period (maybe - if the woman earns less if she doesn't get paid maternity leave, then why does she need an income tax break if her income's fallen in the first place?)

And while it might be sweet to fantacize about finding love and marriage, I'd strongly stress keeping one's finances separated. It is only a matter of years, not a lifetime, before one gets divorced. That is the statistical reality indpendent of people's religious and ficticious moral values.


But we all know this isn't a serious conversation, merely another woe-is-me rant.

Exactly. I don't want to get out of practice.



And how many Donald Trumps are present on this board? None? Oh, that's right, he makes million dollar deals while we fantasize about Star Wars and his wives. Donald Trumps of the world don't bother with Star Wars because they think about business while we think about toys. They network at social events while we chat on message boards.

All probably true. My uncle just got through telling me something like that while he was informing me that by his audit, I'm spending an extra $3,500 or so per year on storages for all my SW stuff. He thinks I should get rid of it. I explained to him, that I don't really have a life without it now.

If you knew me personally, prior to August of 2005:

- I owned a SeaDoo and frequently jet ski'd
- I went surfing a few days every month
- I trained in martial arts for about 10 years
- I weight trained and cardio exercised (had that aneurysm in the gym if you recall)
- I played baseball in an intramural league at my university
- I was elected to my local planning board and pursuing additional public service
- I was a financial planner with securities, real estate, and insurance licenses
etc. etc. etc.

I was also a Star Wars collector for 12 or 13 years - whatever it's been (and of course prior to that back in the vintage years).

Now (Here comes the woe-is-me-part) I've lost almost all of that save for the SW part. I've adapted and hopefully picked up a new part about me being an author writing a novel with my "twisted" thoughts and observations. We'll see if that can sell. But a lot of my more physical and social activities are not really possible or smart for me to pursue any more.

So yes, "woe is me." Thank you for the opportunity to play the pitty card today. It's got me prepared to go to my support group tonight. You know I take the lead in carrying the worst attitude there of course! :thumbsup:

But I have not posted anything but the truth. So there is that if it's still valued.

JON9000
02-06-2008, 07:29 PM
By the way, I got slammed by the mods for stereotyping women's interests as shoes, makeup, celebrity gossip etc. I don't mind if you are also a male chauvenist pig.

Man, it really chaps your behind when the mods climb on you doesn't it, because the victim card gets played in almost every one of your posts these days. It isn't so much what you say as how you say it.

It just so happens that my girl enjoys discussing shoes, makeup & celebrity gossip, as well as many other topics. I don't try to tell her how cool SW, my sports teams & cars are; and she spares me conversations about the above. (Okay, I admit I'll talk about the celebrity gossip a little)


Now (Here comes the woe-is-me-part) I've lost almost all of that save for the SW part. I've adapted and hopefully picked up a new part about me being an author writing a novel with my "twisted" thoughts and observations. We'll see if that can sell. But a lot of my more physical and social activities are not really possible or smart for me to pursue any more.

Everybody knows that, and it sucks hard, but this isn't group therapy where you can just unload all life's miseries in coded posts that trash everyone because you hate the world right now. Nobody here is a therapist nor qualified to give you any kind of help. It's a board for childrens' toys.


But I have not posted anything but the truth.

All you have posted are opinions, which I hasten to add are coming from a mind under severe strain. Opinions are shaped by our own experience, and your experience is not everybody else's. Avoid the false-consensus bias.

Exhaust Port
02-06-2008, 07:56 PM
Having an interest in and supporting are 2 separate things. Rarely will 2 people have all the same interests but it's more important that 2 people are supportive of either other. I don't care if she is interested in SW or whatever. What my wife is though is very supportive just as I try to be of her interests. I think a relationship is more interesting if the other person has different interests. It expands your horizons and also gives each person an opportunity for escapism. Hobbies are great because they give you an opportunity to get away and do something selfish that is very rewarding.

Devil King
02-06-2008, 08:44 PM
I haven't ever dated anyone that didn't find it adorable in a nerdy kind of way.