No. Collecting isn't everything. But it adds something to our lives that can't be taken away from us or even regulated to a certain time of day - like you have to enjoy a boating hobby during the daylight hours (mostly). It also is not so dependant on other people - like your wives - whose moods, loyalty, and patience can change and never be something you can really control. Not that you're supposed to control another person, but I think you SHOULD be in control of your own hobby - and not let it control you (like with obsessive completism).
I always thought that Star Wars was the dessert of life, not the main course of it. Yet your post suggests that collecting is everything, and life is secondary.