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    40% Of The Nation Say Marriage Is Obsolete

    This is for all you guys who:

    • hide their Star Wars collection so that others, especially the LADIES, will like you and want to couple-up with you
    • then, marry and become told what to do and get bored and frustrated with the responsibilities and restrictions of married life (and budget constraints)
    • then become "who you really were all along" and delve into your collecting, assembling a "man-cave" of some nature
    • wind up getting divorced, downsizing your collection, then trying to get everything back (or starting all over) again


    Here's the link to the artcile, the text copied below:

    Quote Originally Posted by Associated Press c/o San Diego Union-Tribune
    Is marriage becoming obsolete?

    As families gather for Thanksgiving this year, nearly one in three American children is living with a parent who is divorced, separated or never-married. More people are accepting the view that wedding bells aren't needed to have a family.

    A study by the Pew Research Center, in association with Time magazine, highlights rapidly changing notions of the American family. And the Census Bureau, too, is planning to incorporate broader definitions of family when measuring poverty, a shift caused partly by recent jumps in unmarried couples living together.

    About 29 percent of children under 18 now live with a parent or parents who are unwed or no longer married, a fivefold increase from 1960, according to the Pew report being released Thursday. Broken down further, about 15 percent have parents who are divorced or separated and 14 percent who were never married. Within those two groups, a sizable chunk - 6 percent - have parents who are live-in couples who opted to raise kids together without getting married.

    Indeed, about 39 percent of Americans said marriage was becoming obsolete. And that sentiment follows U.S. census data released in September that showed marriages hit an all-time low of 52 percent for adults 18 and over.

    In 1978, just 28 percent believed marriage was becoming obsolete.

    When asked what constitutes a family, the vast majority of Americans agree that a married couple, with or without children, fits that description. But four of five surveyed pointed also to an unmarried, opposite-sex couple with children or a single parent. Three of 5 people said a same-sex couple with children was a family.

    "Marriage is still very important in this country, but it doesn't dominate family life like it used to," said Andrew Cherlin, a professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University. "Now there are several ways to have a successful family life, and more people accept them."

    The broadening views of family are expected to have an impact at Thanksgiving. About nine in 10 Americans say they will share a Thanksgiving meal next week with family, sitting at a table with 12 people on average. About one-fourth of respondents said there will be 20 or more family members.

    "More Americans are living in these new families, so it seems safe to assume that there will be more of them around the Thanksgiving dinner table," said Paul Taylor, executive vice president of the Pew Research Center.

    The changing views of family are being driven largely by young adults 18-29, who are more likely than older generations to have an unmarried or divorced parent or have friends who do. Young adults also tend to have more liberal attitudes when it comes to spousal roles and living together before marriage, the survey found.

    But economic factors, too, are playing a role. The Census Bureau recently reported that opposite-sex unmarried couples living together jumped 13 percent this year to 7.5 million. It was a sharp one-year increase that analysts largely attributed to people unwilling to make long-term marriage commitments in the face of persistent unemployment.

    Beginning next year, the Census Bureau will publish new, supplemental poverty figures that move away from the traditional concept of family as a husband and wife with two children. It will broaden the definition to include unmarried couples, such as same-sex partners, as well as foster children who are not related by blood or adoption.

    Officials say such a move will reduce the number of families and children who are considered poor based on the new supplemental measure, which will be used as a guide for federal and state agencies to set anti-poverty policies. That's because two unmarried partners who live together with children and work are currently not counted by census as a single "family" with higher pooled incomes, but are officially defined as two separate units - one being a single parent and child, the other a single person - who aren't sharing household resources.

    "People are rethinking what family means," Cherlin said. "Given the growth, I think we need to accept cohabitation relationships as a basis for some of the fringe benefits offered to families, such as health insurance."

    Still, the study indicates that marriage isn't going to disappear anytime soon. Despite a growing view that marriage may not be necessary, 67 percent of Americans were upbeat about the future of marriage and family. That's higher than their optimism for the nation's educational system (50 percent), economy (46 percent) or its morals and ethics (41 percent).

    And about half of all currently unmarried adults, 46 percent, say they want to get married. Among those unmarried who are living with a partner, the share rises to 64 percent.

    Other findings:

    -About 34 percent of Americans called the growing variety of family living arrangements good for society, while 32 percent said it didn't make a difference and 29 percent said it was troubling.

    -About 44 percent of people say they have lived with a partner without being married; for 30-to-49-year-olds, that share rose to 57 percent. In most cases, those couples said they considered cohabitation as a step toward marriage.

    -About 62 percent say that the best marriage is one where the husband and wife both work and both take care of the household and children. That's up from 48 percent who held that view in 1977.

    The Pew study was based on interviews with 2,691 adults by cell phone or landline from Oct. 1-21. The survey has a total margin of error of plus or minus 2.6 percentage points, larger for subgroups. Pew also analyzed 2008 census data, and used surveys conducted by Time magazine to identify trends from earlier decades.
    So in conclusion, this brings me back to the point I'm very sorry to make, but YOUR divorce is very predictable to me.

    What motivated me in posting this? I'm still told I'm hurting myself by being "too much of a freak" with wanting to display my toy collection in every room of my home (so it can be appreciated with it being spread out, and not each display overwhelming the other ones, like the AT-AT on Hoth distracting from the AT-TE on Geonosis).

    Some guys think they are "too cool for school," and hide their interest so they can pretend to be someone else so they can get some 'social-life action.' Well, you still can 'get some,' in spite of your collecting interest, but don't wreck your life (the life of your false-personality) by legally and financially tying yourself into an institution that could seriously devistate you.

    Yup. FAKE PEOPLE here, go right ahead and continue "lurking" here, and hiding your toys in your closet or the man-cave while you ignore this warning, wreck your life when you say "I do," and wonder why you're so unhappy.

    Get real. You're reading posts on a Star Wars collecting website. I'd assume that most of you here are reading this because you're also into the hobby - or you wonder if you'd be happier if you were.

    Nevertheless, as the study that I linked to above demonstrates, people still are not using birth control, and winding up with 'family responsibilities' regardless of whether they marry or co-habitate or not.

    I Tycho, continue to make a stand for Men's Rights, the Freedom for Our Own Lives, Liberty, and the Pursuit of SELF-CENTERED Happiness that can be THE benchmark achievement for a happy Star Wars fan!
    BAD Pts Need: R5-C7 lf leg (x2), , R4-P44 right leg BAD Pts Offered For Trade: PM me - I have lots of parts now including BG-J38!. New Kyle Katarn is also available.

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    I read the same article and I saw something you left out that said, "94% of the women interviewed say they dated a man who went under the net handle of 'Tycho'; these women then added, 'after dating Tycho, we're swearing off men, for good.'

    "Woke up at 9.55am. Soon as I woke up, I looked at Suzanne and she looked at me. I said, 'Did I tell you about the immune system?' Suzanne starting laughing, I said, 'it's amazing.' She said, 'Not now.'"

  3. #3
    It's all about life choices.

    In my case the exact opposite has happened. My wife was fully aware of my SW obsession and collecting. Over the years I have lost interest in collecting the line from time to time. The new Vintage line has gotten my interest, though it has been years since I was really excited about collecting.

    On the flip side, after a decade of marriage I can honestly say that life is better than ever before, each day is deeply fulfilling, more so than any "hobby" could ever be. My wife and I love each other for who we are, and always have.

    Perhaps that is because we never hid who we really were. Neither of us were interested in finding a life mate when we started dating, we just wanted to have fun and be ourselves.

    My children bring me endless joy.

    If things were to change, if my wife were to ask for a divorce then I would never remarry. One shot deal, it's this or nothing.

    Marriage is not rational, love can not be quantified. People can examine it, study it, try to explain it, but at the end of the day every marriage is different, some work out and others do not.

    Marriage is not for everyone, I understand and respect that. All I ask is that others respect my life choice and not criticize me for the decision I have made to raise a more traditional family.
    May the force be with you.

  4. #4
    What SK99 said!
    ¡Que la fuerza te acompañe!

  5. #5
    Ditto T eye and SK99. Especially the kids part because now I have someone to share my toys with. The wife knew about the star wars toys from the night we started dating. I had them displayed all around my room. Of course that was 1999 and there were a lot fewer of them then. Nonetheless, I've always been true to who I am and she has been the same way. Maybe that's the secret to happiness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mtriv73 View Post
    Ditto T eye and SK99. Especially the kids part because now I have someone to share my toys with. The wife knew about the star wars toys from the night we started dating. I had them displayed all around my room. Of course that was 1999 and there were a lot fewer of them then. Nonetheless, I've always been true to who I am and she has been the same way. Maybe that's the secret to happiness.
    Okay, that's just creepy. I also had them displayed all around my room (barracks room) and my wife and I also started dating in 1999.
    May the force be with you.

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    Or are we?

    Hold on, I need to log out under my user ID and log in under my "other" ID.
    May the force be with you.

  9. #9
    Quote Originally Posted by Jedi_Master_Guyute View Post
    I read the same article and I saw something you left out that said, "94% of the women interviewed say they dated a man who went under the net handle of 'Tycho'; these women then added, 'after dating Tycho, we're swearing off men, for good.'

    Can you blame them?
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  10. #10
    They interviewed thousands of people, presumably at least half of them women.

    It can't possibly be true that I dated 94% of them. I get a bad reputation much faster than that!

    Meanwhile, I'm happy for those of you whose marriages are working. You are beating the odds.

    Perhaps SSG's own forum members' data skews things though:

    If someone else is divorced or unhappily married, their ex may have forced them out of the hobby, or discouraged them from overcoming their FEAR of ever getting started (fear of "what will someone else think?).

    So why would they be any one of you guys who are posting here regularly?

    If I was driven or prevented from collecting, I don't think I'd hang out here myself. I'd be too jealous of everyone else's toy-finds and their ability (and freedom) to appreciate what they want.
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